When people begin therapy, they are usually in emotional pain and it’s interfering with their every day life. For many the hurt and distress is intolerable, and they want to feel better now. There’s a common misconception that when you go to therapy seeking healing from emotional pain, you have to sit and tell the story about it.
While talking about the hurt and what the person believes is causing it may temporarily relieve some pressure, it isn’t the same thing as changing something in that pain for a lifetime of relief.
Change Leads To Healing
That change and healing happens as a person develops the ability to:
1) Allow themselves to fully feel a wide range of emotions without blocking them or denying them.
2) Feel deserving of good experiences and learn to expect them because of their own actions.
3) Identify one’s unique needs, dreams, hopes, and goals. This requires being protective of them and assertive about expressing them.
4) Embrace one’s own worth and worthiness.
5) Identify and acknowledge oneself for having effective coping skills and abilities.
6) Keep painful feelings and thoughts in perspective and learn to calm one’s self.
7) Make and stick to commitments that sustain relationships and goals even with setbacks.
8) Creatively replace old unhelpful patterns with new, more successful ones.
For example: Independently problem solve and find solutions for life’s challenges.
9) Be one’s self fully and honestly when in relationships without undue anxiety about either being abandoned or smothered.
10) Get comfortable with aloneness – not confusing it with loneliness or abandonment.
11) Acknowledge the “you” that lives at your core – knowing and accepting one’s self.
Let’s Identify What You Are Doing
Therapy helps you to identify what you are doing and whether what you’re doing is working for the situation. It also gives you a place to learn and practice new skills to manage your struggles.
You’re only in therapy about 1 hour a week and the other 167 hours you are in your life. It is important to work with someone who can help you:
- Identify and deepen the parts of you that are working.
- Build those abilities and skills that you need to heal.
- Grow into a meaningful life.
No matter what you have tried before or what your struggle is, we can help you begin the process of healing from emotional pain.
Contact Sweetgrass ICT today and let’s get started on your journey to your whole healthy self.
